How to check up on a friend

Tackling this issue is going to be tricky. I already tried checking wikiHow, and there are no articles with the same title as this blog post. In a world, that is so brutal at times, we all need somebody to lean on. Due to the essence of us being social creatures. You'll find that after a hard day, a phonecall or a message from a dear one can lift your spirits, in a way that almost seems like sorcery. Join me as I delve into the mystical arts of checking up on a friend. 

I tried doing some research about the matter at hand. The results were quite interesting,to say the least. When it comes to checking up on a companion, there is not a one size fits all way to go about it. You have to be particular about the person, what dictates the way you approach them can be the kind of relationship you have. Depending upon the dynamic you have established, you can strategise as to how to reach out to the friend. For some, a text message would be enough, for others having a meal together would suffice and for others it may be sharing memes on a regular basis. 

There's many different ways ,but not all of them are effective. At the core of it, what it is about, is showing your thoughtfulness and care for the person. In the act of outreach, you have to assess if what you're doing communicates that you are thinking about your friend, and you care to know about their well-being. I can not promise a hundred percent effectiveness, however, I am persuaded to believe that making the before mentioned intentions clear as you check up on your friend, makes all the difference.  

I for one, do not usually know how to handle these procedures well. I always wonder if I was able to be there for those around me, especially when there's not much that I can say or do for them. For reasons I'm yet to arrive at, I have learnt that just being present most of the time is all that matters. I think the apostle Paul had great wisdom in writing to the church in Rome as he says,

 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.

Romans 12:15 ESV

I find great encouragement in knowing that,sharing in laughter and tears is something I can do, that isn't as complex as rocket science, in order to connect with people.In all seasons and times, it gives great strength and comfort to know that you're not going through things alone. 

The biggest enemy to this part of our relationships flourishing, is procrastination. If I could count the number of times I thought about someone, and made a mental note to check up on them, and I forgot, it would be too embarrassing of a number to share with you. I do try to make sure that preliminarily, I pray for my friends at the very least, before forgetting about getting in touch. It takes discipline, and some pragmatism to navigate your way around this problem. 

As I wrap up, here's a bit of information for you. If you want to check up on me, one of the most effective ways to do so would be over a meal. I jest,  just hearing from a friend, and knowing that they have some concern in whatever form it may be is enough for me. So, dear readers I hope as you read this someone's name came to mind. Now go and reach out them it'll make a world of a difference.